Lisa A Miller Hays (1961 - 2011) - Find A Grave Memorial |
Last night I learned of the death of another high school
friend. This is not the first friend of my youth I have lost, but this was the
first from a tight knit group that I spent many hours with. She was a member of
my high school youth group. In high school these people were my very best
friends. Almost every activity I participated in included them. Our group had
so much fun together that we grew to have about 35 high school kids in a church
where the size would have dictated half that many members.
Lisa was one of the more serious in our group. She had a deep
founded faith even at a young age. I remember going to the local swimming pool
with her and noticing her modesty. In the late 70’s this was not really the
norm. She did not seem to worry at all what the world thought of her. This at
an age when most of us cared far too deeply what others thought.
After high school Lisa went to a nearby Bible College. It was
shortly after this that many of us lost contact with her. In thinking back on
this I wonder if the young people of today realize what a wonderful thing
social media is when it comes to staying in touch with people. Granted, there
are some people you may not want to
stay in contact with, but it does make it so much easier to keep up with each others lives.
Last night I had an enjoyable phone conversation with another
youth group friend I have not spoken with in over 25 years. It was during that
conversation that I learned of Lisa’s death, just over one year ago. I learned
she had married and that she had two children. Also, that her husband was a
minister at a Church in southeast Kansas. And that she died of lung cancer,
though she never smoked a day in her life.
I nosed around the internet a bit and found a memorial page at
FindAGrave.com that included her obituary and a picture of her. She was a little
older looking, with hair a bit darker and shorter, but undeniably Lisa. I then
found a Facebook page for her church. She was in a couple of photos, working
with the youth, looking happy and healthy. I read the posts that chronicled her
journey. From the surprise diagnosis of cancer, to the final journey to the
hospital. This gave me a tiny glimpse into her life, a life spent in service to
Him.
As a woman of faith, I have no doubt about where Lisa is now.
Home. And I think about what the first words she heard were, and I think for
Lisa they must have been…
Well
done, good and faithful servant! ~Matt.
25:21
What a beautiful tribute to Lisa. We had some wonderful times! Prayers and continued blessings to her family.
ReplyDeleteCindy Swaney Niedens
Marla, thank you for sharing. That (high school) era seems almost like fiction to me today, in the sense that it was (as Cindy has correctly responded) "some wonderful times" - but also comparatively innocent and simple. Your recollections of Lisa during that time are well said. Your posting has given me pause - possibly others, like me, having over-the-years drifted into greater skepticism, cynicism, and other isms ... not about God, necessarily, but about our brothers and sisters and neighbors. Thanks for taking the time to share and reach out, Marla (and Cindy). It's nice to hear your voices - even if just through a few lines of written text. Both of your voices-and the memory of Lisa - are deeply appreciated. Thank you. John Honeycutt.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful tribute to your highschool friend. So sorry for your loss.
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